Habitual success is every bit as possible as habitual failure. It's a matter of what you choose to pay attention to. If you doubt that, try this simple experiment. Notice your reaction to that thought and then notice that you could have had the exact opposite reaction if you chose to do so. Either way. If you thought that the statement was true you notice that you had the option to decide it was false and vice versa. You chose.
It's like that with everything in your life. Event > choice > decision > action > result. Over and over and over. Thousands of times a day. Mostly on autopilot. Good decisions and bad decisions - some that add to your success and some that keep you from it.
It's back to that conscious/unconscious thing again. A few years back when I was studying this, my teacher, Robert Dilts, commented to me that the only thing he wanted to be "Unconsciously competent" about was being "Consciously competent," which is to say his goal was to be on autopilot only about NOT being on autopilot about anything else. To be aware of every choice he made as it presented itself.
If you truly want to be, do, and have, your best in this life, and you're not already there, step one is to cultivate the top ten habits of success, starting with the habit of "Paying Attention" to your own thoughts. Are you looking for solutions or are you hung up on problems? Are you able to stand outside your training and education and see the world around you in a logical and emotion free state? What are you giving your time and attention to?
The greatest certainty I know is that whatever you give your attention to, grows. If you fertilize your garden in one moment and then take the fertilizer away the next, you constantly interrupt the growth you seek. Two steps forward and one step back. One step forward and one step back. One step forward and two steps back. One moment telling yourself you can and the next taking it away. Dominant thought wins. In Jimmy Buffet's song about Buddy Bear he says " It was two steps forward and one step back. It was so simple it plum evaded me."
That's what you do when you worry!!!!! You focus on what might go wrong. So you start to create it. Then you have to work that much harder to fix it. I don't mean you should walk around pretending nothing can ever go wrong. Things can and do go astray. But you don't have to dwell on them. Notice them and go for the solution. If you will train yourself to do that, you'll have habit #1 well in hand and be on your way to the life you say you want.
So the first habit of success is to monitor your dominant thought. It's not complicated. It is not a great mystery. It's simple. Anyone can do it. Joey Manos told me "You gottawanna." He was right. All you have to remember is that you get what you think about most. And then direct your thoughts where you WANT them to go. Constantly. With passion. Start now. Question your assumptions. Make course corrections. Get in the habit.
It's like that with everything in your life. Event > choice > decision > action > result. Over and over and over. Thousands of times a day. Mostly on autopilot. Good decisions and bad decisions - some that add to your success and some that keep you from it.
It's back to that conscious/unconscious thing again. A few years back when I was studying this, my teacher, Robert Dilts, commented to me that the only thing he wanted to be "Unconsciously competent" about was being "Consciously competent," which is to say his goal was to be on autopilot only about NOT being on autopilot about anything else. To be aware of every choice he made as it presented itself.
If you truly want to be, do, and have, your best in this life, and you're not already there, step one is to cultivate the top ten habits of success, starting with the habit of "Paying Attention" to your own thoughts. Are you looking for solutions or are you hung up on problems? Are you able to stand outside your training and education and see the world around you in a logical and emotion free state? What are you giving your time and attention to?
The greatest certainty I know is that whatever you give your attention to, grows. If you fertilize your garden in one moment and then take the fertilizer away the next, you constantly interrupt the growth you seek. Two steps forward and one step back. One step forward and one step back. One step forward and two steps back. One moment telling yourself you can and the next taking it away. Dominant thought wins. In Jimmy Buffet's song about Buddy Bear he says " It was two steps forward and one step back. It was so simple it plum evaded me."
That's what you do when you worry!!!!! You focus on what might go wrong. So you start to create it. Then you have to work that much harder to fix it. I don't mean you should walk around pretending nothing can ever go wrong. Things can and do go astray. But you don't have to dwell on them. Notice them and go for the solution. If you will train yourself to do that, you'll have habit #1 well in hand and be on your way to the life you say you want.
So the first habit of success is to monitor your dominant thought. It's not complicated. It is not a great mystery. It's simple. Anyone can do it. Joey Manos told me "You gottawanna." He was right. All you have to remember is that you get what you think about most. And then direct your thoughts where you WANT them to go. Constantly. With passion. Start now. Question your assumptions. Make course corrections. Get in the habit.
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